I found this spam in my Inbox.  Since starting to co-present the Building Healthy Relationships workshops and listening to Chiara’s stories about this I ‘ve become more conscious about the gender messages that mediate our day-to-day lives.

From the e-mail:

Hello.
My name is Tessy, It is my pleasure writing you this mail as I saw your mail, I believe that we can be good friends partners or more in life I wish you can write an email through my email address then  tell me about you below is my email address for further comunications.

But in this part of my life I would like to be the woman in general. This may not be modern thinking but I am not a modern thinking feminist woman. In fact my dream is to be a wife spare her energy during the day so when a husband comes home at night he would feed off that energy. I do not believe this can be done
when both are tired from working all day.

And nothing brings a man home faster from work than the thought of his beautiful, sexy and rested wife waiting for him at home filled with romance and passion.